Sometimes, the most important obstacle a woman faces to bring her child does not even stem in her. She has to explain and assure an apprehensive partner who is totally unrelenting when it comes to the possibility of becoming a dad. The underlying issues in the denial to be a dad are so very complex that you need to approach them very patiently. This article helps to deal with such dads-to-be.
After all, bringing home a baby to an uncooperative dad is a very tough experience, leaving alone the stress of going through pregnancy without your partner’s support. Dads today want to be more involved in their children’s lives compared to their fathers of previous generations. In light of this, a rundown of the five comprehensive reasons and the solutions for convincing a difficult partner can be found below.
Top 5 Apprehensions of Dad’s-To-Be
Both prospective parents are excited and nervous about having a baby because it will bring such a significant change to their lives. When it comes to having a baby, couples share many of the same concerns, but men have their own set of worries.
1. The Fear Of Financial Inadequacy
This is a very valid point actually. In fact, your husband may have more reason than you have in this particular scenario. Women are often desperate to have a baby and they may forsake the practical aspects. You may completely overlook the fact that the situation is not financially suitable to handle the responsibility of bringing a child into the world.
Then again, your husband’s fears can also stem from a miserly attitude where he thinks it unwise to go through the costs, even when there is sufficient money. Here, you have to take a tough stance and shake him into the realization that no expenditure can ever come even near to the happiness of holding your own baby
2. The Apprehension Of Crooked Suspicion
This is actually the worst kind of situation where the husband thinks that the baby in question is not going to be his, and someone else’s. This is totally absurd, so to say, and derives from the same gnawing insecurity of being a poor performer in bed. He tends to think that he is unable to father a child, as it is something very divine, and he is totally not up to the task.
This gets him to suspect the wife of having an affair. See, you cannot show reason to a man who is blinded by such twisted thoughts of envy, hatred, inadequacy, and abject lack of trust. You may have to take the toughest steps, and it is perfectly okay in this scenario (sorry to say this)
3. The Fear Of Losing You
This is the sweetest of all complex issues dads-to-be encounter. In fact, only the best of them do not consent to have a baby from this angle. Here, he is concerned about your safety because pregnancy is hectic. You should listen to him if you have frail health. Being pregnant is very taxing and people do die.
Be safe. Go to the doctor for a professional evaluation of your health. An experienced gynecologist can easily tell you whether you are ready. Take multiple opinions if necessary just to be sure that you will be safely becoming a mom eventually
4. The Fear Of Inadequacy
It is a well-known fact that the majority of a man’s life is spent overcoming various shortcomings. There are many different things that can put a man in a bad mood. He is intimidated when he compares his salary to that of another person (because there is always someone earning more). Also, he is intimidated when he is in the presence of another man who has a better physique, and he is intimidated by the accomplishments of his wife.
So, when you break your wish to be pregnant, he simply feels very low because deep in his heart he knows that you are going to take a massive responsibility that nature would never allow him to take. Communication is the only way to resolve this stalemate and you have to know the right things to say. Talk first to access the heart of dads-to-be, on what he is thinking exactly. Men are known to hide their hearts under egoistic shouting and all that, so it can be tough. Try your best.
5. The Fear Of No Fun
This is a slightly complicated issue, but it is nothing that cannot be resolved. The husband tends to feel that once you become pregnant, all adult fun will disappear from the married life. Well, you can always tell him intimately how sex during pregnancy is super fun!
Some dads-to-be feel very queasy about the whole thing. They simply just cannot bring themselves to accept the vomiting, and the other emotional tantrums pregnancy is naturally going to usher.
Dads-to-be thinks he cannot care for you in case you have an urgent situation. Then, your husband may also project his thoughts on the stress of bringing up an infant. Little one’s puke, pee, and poop at will! He finds all these difficult to handle. Now, there is no other way but to tell him that all these hassles are only secondary to the joy of being parents
In highly complicated negative situations, husbands are apprehensive because of reasons they do not want you to know. He may be having a raving affair, and your proposal to be a parent just seems out-of-the-world of his stolen ‘paradise’. Every woman knows what to do in such scenarios. It is nothing to be explained. That said, take care of yourself and your partner. Here is wishing you amazing parenthood! Best of luck.
